As parents, we want to see our children happy every day, but we often forget that although the children have not yet grown up, they also have rich emotions and emotions like adults.
Many times, we allow ourselves to be angry, growl, or cry, but we do not allow the child to have his negative emotions. When the child was crying, we said, "I know how to cry. What is the use of crying?" When the child was angry, we said, "A person who is not big-tempered is not small, and is increasingly disobedient!" ... It is difficult for us to accept children Negative emotions may be because it means trouble is coming, or it may be because we are unable to cope.
do you know? There is no good or bad mood. When the child's negative emotions come, the only thing we can do is accept. Accept your child's emotions and the child will like you, trust you, and be willing to listen to your suggestions or opinions. There is actually a way how to accept the emotions of children, parents can use it directly!
1. Repeating your child's words shows acceptance
When a child has negative emotions due to certain things, parents should not rush into anger. You can repeat what the child says first to let the child know that you are trying to understand him. For example, the child wants an expensive toy, but it is beyond your budget. You can tell the child this way: The baby wants the toy very much, right, I also think this toy is great, but the mother's money is not enough. Bring enough money, let's see if we can buy it, okay? Children will not be too unreasonable to hear their mother's understanding of themselves, and will be easier to soothe.
2.Receive acceptance with the same feelings as your child
The child fell down and cried. A mother who knows how to accept the child ’s emotions will say, “Is the baby hurt? Right? The mother also loves the baby! But the baby is very brave and can stand up on his own.” Your mother might say, "What's the big deal! Just get up."
Many times, children show negative emotions, not always intentionally, but they really feel discomfort, sometimes psychological discomfort, sometimes physical discomfort. Parents respond with the same feelings of their children, which will give the children a certain level of comfort, so that they do not keep themselves in negative emotions.
3. Tell their feelings for the baby
Some babies still say bad things, but they cry when they start crying. They may be very anxious at this time, and the parents may be anxious and do n’t know how to communicate? Attentive parents will understand what the baby thinks and the reason behind the baby's negative emotions. Parents may wish to say their feelings on behalf of the baby to avoid the child being too anxious and difficult to appease.
As the child grows up, parents learn to accept their children's emotions. It is an important lesson. On the one hand, parents can avoid losing control with their children. On the other hand, the acceptance of parents is also telling the children that negative emotions are not so scary. We can be masters of our emotions.