Many parents now say that they ca n’t communicate with their children in the messages. The children we said ca n’t hear them. We have n’t finished speaking and the children have ten words to wait for us. Therefore, the key to the deterioration of parent-child relationship is that communication problems ca n’t continue. . And because of the polarization, our ideas and children's ideas are not in the stand. Sometimes parents cannot understand the child with empathy, so the child thinks that the parent does not understand his idea at all, so the child is too lazy to explain to the parent, or to narrate something Psychological dynamics, so you will feel that the distance from your child is getting farther and farther, which will lead to generation gaps and gaps, resulting in more and more rigid parent-child relationships, and even more communication problems, affecting parent-child communication is a headache for many parents thing.
Some parents said that my child is particularly naughty, no matter how to reason with him, I still make mistakes as always, I do n’t know how to educate. In fact, some of the children ’s rebellious behaviors are caused by our lack of healthy communication. We must know The way people talk to each other and the way to build friendships is communication. Communication can make us good friends and communication can sign up for a large order. Therefore, communication is an important way for people to communicate with each other, whether it is a friend During the communication between colleagues and family members, benign communication is required, but most parents understand this principle, but it is very simple to do, and the degree of poor communication with children creates a cycle of vicious communication.
Therefore, parents need to understand the principles and skills of communication to avoid parent-child wars. Some parents think that it does n’t make much sense to understand this. The child has to listen to the parents and be obedient. If you have such a view, the child will burst out during adolescence, and at that time he wants to correct it. It is very difficult to make up and make up, so if you want to cultivate a good child who is sensible, good at communication, but also obedient, parents need to change first, and learn the three levels of communication. I hope today's content can help you.
1. Lower your body, squat down and talk to your child
I remember once when I was flying, because my dad and a child were very stable and gentlemen, especially the little boy, about six or seven years old, had been reading newspapers or sleeping with his dad. Taking a break, I do n’t have the willful character of a child. It really makes me stunned. I ca n’t believe it. Generally speaking, adults say that a seven-year-old or eight-year-old dog is too susceptible. Live, especially naughty. Therefore, it is difficult to imagine how such a good boy, and a gentleman, was cultivated. When he got off the plane, the scene in front of me shocked me, and I found the reason why the child is excellent. That is when the dad communicated with him, they all squatted down to formally talk to the child, and the four eyes listened very carefully to the child. After the communication was over, the father took the child's hand, and the two were very happy and yet Continue to move forward in harmony, so please do n’t underestimate and talk to your children. If you like reading, you may have read this article before, which is called "Squatting Down and Talking to Children", but many parents said it is easier to say. It is difficult to do. We understand a lot of the truth, but it is not so easy to implement. It's like many parents know that don't yell at children, yelling at children is not good for their children's character development.